Step-by-Step Reception Guide

1. The Formalities

The "Formalities" begin to set the stage at a reception, creating the environment for the evening. These include:

The Grand Announcements / Introductions The MC announces each couple or group in a specific order with unique songs. Mom and Dad can walk in to their own song snippet (like "Walk this Way" or "Rump Shaker"!), and each couple can use their own "theme song." The MC will have all of the info, can make changes on the fly, and his assistant at the board will have all the music cued and ready to roll.

First Dance You and your groom choose a personal, special song. It does not have to be a slow ballad, but most prefer this. You have to dance the entire song, as it's the best photo op you'll have all night!

Parent Dances You may also choose to dance to a special song with a parent or loved one. Ask Dad or Mom to choose a song that expresses your life together, or their feelings for you. You may also share this dance with a special relative, and there's nothing wrong with a bride dancing with her mother!

Cake Cutting After dinner. Choose a song that has something to do with sugar, sweetness, candy, etc. The photographer should set the shots around the cake - remember to look up and smile throughout! The MC should stand beside you, announcing the progress, asking the crowd to join.

Bouquet Toss & Garter The MC will ask you when you'd like to do this, then call all the single ladies (or all women present) to the floor. The DJ will play a fun girls' song. MC checks that photographer is positioned, counts to three, and you throw (please try not to hit any overhead lighting!). The girls scramble and one lucky one emerges victorious. For the garter, the groom removes your garter to a sexy song. The MC sets the chair for you, gives instruction, entertains the crowd as it happens. Then all the single men are called the the floor, and the groom tosses the garter just like the bouquet. Finally, the MC places the chair back onto the floor, and the garter-catcher places the garter on the leg of the bouquet-catcher.

Special Events It's very important that some weddings have special dances later in the evening. The groom may have daughters he'd love to dance with, or you can do an Anniversary Dance to include all couples (especially the older ones). Remember, It's your wedding - unique events create participation and lasting memories. You may also elect to play a game or two.

The Formalities involve the planning and interaction of the bride/groom, crowd and MC. These stamp an identity on your wedding, and you won't want someone sitting behind a DJ booth trying to coordinate it all from there. With Starry Nite, you'll be covered with a DJ and an MC who won't miss a moment.

2. The Dinner

Dinner is not just for eating! This is schmoozing time, social time, and a great opportunity for the DJ to involve the older guests. Now, one of the biggest complaints about DJs is that the Music is too loud during dinner. We hear it from 90% of the people who have attended weddings recently. A great DJ knows that three things must happen during dinner:

Conversation This is a time for relatives to find each other again, talk about old times, tell old stories, and even make new table friends. We know this is an important time for your friends and family, so we ALWAYS walk around to the tables and ask if they can hear each other, and offer to turn the music down if they can't.

The Rounds It's your time to get up (but eat first!) and mingle with the crowd, visiting tables and gathering envelopes.

Slow Dancing During the introductions, we announce that the dance floor will be open during dinner, and that the guests should join in to a few of the great love songs we'll be playing throughout. We also take requests, so if there's a special song in their lives (their own wedding song, for instance), we'd love to play it. This is a great time for the older relatives to participate in your wedding, and it should not be neglected. Another frequent complaint is that DJs crank Top 40 music during dinner, and never play any love songs. We try to accommodate the older crowd with love songs from Elvis, The Beatles, Van Morrison, Nat King Cole, Doo Wop - anything that will help them share in your big day!

3. The Party

Finally - after we finish all the formal announcements and all the activities we've planned together, after the guests have chowed down, after the cake-cutting - we can PARTY!

We take responsibility for your guests' enjoyment during the party, just like the rest of the reception. We'll have already sat together and planned what kind of music you and your guests love, but sometimes you just can't foresee the mood of the crowd.

Still, we have you covered, and your party will be a blast. We play a variety of songs until we hit something the crowd loves, and we stick with that vibe for as long as the crowd loves it. We know that each crowd is different, and we want everyone at your party up and dancing - from your 20-something cousins to your great aunts. This means you'll get a variety of dance music that everyone can enjoy. We're always active in keeping the atmosphere fun and exciting, so we'll never throw on a recycled playlist and leave the dance floor empty!

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